How I Knew I Was Transgender

Forty Years of Self-Discovery

G. L. Balend in January 2020

Since coming out as transgender in early 2018, I’ve been lucky enough to have a lot of support and love from my friends and family. However, one of the most frequent questions I’ve gotten is how did you know? That’s a simple question with a complicated answer.

My Youth



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Grayson Bell

Grayson Bell


An autistic, gay, transgender man writing about LGBTQ issues, focused on the transgender community. (He/Him)